Key Question 20.

1. Leadership (Hiller,Rick, 1995)
Leadership (Giuliani, Rudolph W. Kurson, Ken. 2002)
More than a pink Cadillac (Underwood, Jim. 2003)
Seven generations of Iroquois leadership (Hauptman, Laurence M. 2008)
Being A Leader (Nelson,Robin. 2003)

Emerging Leader (www.emergingleader.com)
Leadership Turn (www.leadershipturn.com)
What Makes a Good Leader (www.whatmakesagoodleader.com)
Youth Leadership (www.youthleadership.com)
The Leader In Me (www.theleaderinme.org)

2. Jay Smith- counsellor, lacrosse teacher
Mike Skye- Teacher for youth lodge
Ardie Johnson- Counsellor, leader, supporter
Geoff Stedd- Teacher, friend, caring
Alana MacDonald- Director of Ganohkwasra, Leader, Positive role model
I can approach any of these people who i look up to in the community, the are all willing to help and are there when i need somebody to talk to.
-what is your personal definition of leadership?
-do you consider yourself a good leader, why?
-would you want others to take advice about being a leader from you?
-do you consider a leader to need to know how to follow at times, would you consider yourself a good follower?

2.June 31
Computer skills can be useful in other leadership situations at school and in the community to write informative essays, posters, websites, etc.
Computer skills can also be useful in other leadership situations in case there needs to be a peer-meditation contract that needs to be made.

3. Dear Prime Minister,
We were wondering if you would fund our programs to youth in our community. These programs will teach youth the importance of staying in school, giving them an opportunity to finish high school and complete grade 12 in a non-school setting. We know that many student drop out and cannot succeed in a school setting. Programs will include teaching youth about future opportunities, success that they can achieve on their own time, and different ways they can obtain their GED. The results will be an increase in graduating students, and higher averages that students graduate with. Thank you for your time, and i hope you consider funding this program to help increase the number of graduates with higher averages, so they will be able to attend post-secondary school.

 

Key Question 19.

1. Wingmaster, 70 Erie Ave, Brantford, ON
Boston Pizza, 50 Market St. South, Brantford ON
Taal Fine Indian Cuisine, 578 Colborne St, Brantford ON
China King,1320 Colborne St, Brantford ON
Sushi Eight, 265 King George St, Brantford ON
b. Six Nations Pentecostal Church, 1527B Fourth Line, Oshweken ON
Oshweken Baptist Church, 1862 Fourth Lone, Oshweken ON
Faith Victory Tabernacle, 7077 Indian Line, Oshweken ON
Bethany Baptist Church, 916 Cheifswood rd, Hagerville ON
Grand River United Church, 861 Third Line, Oshweken ON
c. Brantford Lion Club, 20 Edge St., Brantford ON
Brantford Garden Club (Meetings in lions park) 20 Edge St.
2. My friend Courtney Kosik, from Hungary.
An Acquaintance Omid, from Iraq.
My friend Bradley Gould, from Wiltshire England.
3. a) Little Treasures Daycare, 1890 Fourth Line
Six Nations Daycare, 21 Bicentennial Trl.
b) Ganohkwasra Youth Lodge, 35 Sunrise Crt.
Social Services Programs, __ Sunrise Crt.
c) Six nations Bingo, 2585 Cheifswood Rd.
Six nations health services, 1745 Cheifswood rd.
d)Six nations long term care, 1755 Cheifswood rd.
Sheridan Lodge Retirement home, 6 Sheridan rd, Brantford ON
4.a) Men’s Hockey League, Wayne Gretzky Sports Center, Brantford ON
Salvation Army, 187 Dallhousie st, Brantford ON
b)Ganohkwasra Family Assault Services, 1781 Cheifswood Rd, Oshweken ON
Breast Cancer Community Support, 25 William st, Brantford ON
c)Six Nations Boys Field Lacrosse, ILA 3201 Second Line, Hagersville ON
d) Women In All Her Seasons (Six Nations Birthing Center) 1745 Cheifswood Rd, Oshweken ON
5.a) Six Nations Minor Hockey, 1738 Fourth Line, Oshweken ON
Six Nations Rebels Lacrosse,3201 Second Line, Hagersville ON
Six nations Basketball, J.C Hill Middle School Gymnasium
b)Community living, 30 Cao Lane, Oshweken ON
Participation House, 10 Bell Lane, Brantford ON
6. Unable to retrieve information online, Must go to housing dept. for housing on six nations.
e) Six nations Bingo Hall, 2585 Cheifswood Rd
f) Six nations welfare Dept programs, 12 Sunrise Crt.

7.Advantages of living in a diverse community are that it’s easier to understand different religions, and cultures if you ask about them. People will learn that humans are just humans and there’s nothing different about us, we all live and survive in this world. Learning about other people’s struggles in life, and getting help with your own. Living in a community with a variety of men and women of different ethnicity’s and religions is an advantage to learn about the world, if they’ve immigrated from different countries if they are polite and willing to share, you can learn about how they’re treated in their countries.  An advantage of living in a community with different age groups and abilities are you learn to accept people for who they are, not being prejudice later in life depending how those that live around you treat each other, if they are rude it could increase chances in being prejudice when you get older. Also, an advantage of living in a community with different educational and financial means are the opportunities available, and the resources that you could have in your life from these businesses.

8.Challenges that a diverse community must overcome to succeed are accepting people for who they are, not what society makes them to be. Not being judgmental towards people of different races, ethics, or religions. Coming together and accepting everybody in the community as if they are family. If these challenges can be overcome then the community has a much higher chance of success within’ the community. Children who grow up in healthy successful communities can be friends with any child, without upsetting or aggravating their parents. Communities are able to start businesses, recreation programs, and those who don’t have a lot of money and need help may be able to get it from neighbours.
Effects of discrimination are different, to different people. Discrimination can cause emotional, physical, and spiritual effects on a human. This can cause a person to have short term effects such as having low self esteem and low self worth, go into depression, have a fear of rejection, cause stress, feeling withdrawn from society, feel humiliated, cause them to gain/loose weight, having fear from those they live around, anger, and to feel isolated. Long term effects of discrimination may be loss of motivation, restricted opportunities, give them limited access to services, long term depression, increased behavioural problems, they may have difficultly communicating to others, lack of education, and lack of achievement. Overcoming discrimination can be easy as talking to people of other races, ages, sex’s, and religions. Having respect for other’s of different cultures, learning about them if interested. Having an appreciation of diversity in life.  Avoiding gossip about others about their race, reporting discrimination, and standing up for those who are facing discrimination.
Effects of racism can make a person become angry, bitter, violent, feel degraded, and destroy their self-esteem. Racism can create a horrifying defeatist nature, destroy communities, creating division in society. Racism can cause a shorter life expectancy. Racism can be overcome by educating each other, teaching other’s to be tolerant of people. Learning to accept other’s for who they are, not judging them by the what they look like, or their skin colour. Learning ways to help each other, accepting people for who they are on the inside, which can lead to becoming a healthy community of different races.
Sexism is discrimination and prejudice based on a persons gender. Sexism can change the way a person thinks, feels, and the way they behave around others. Sexism can cause increased anxiety, depression, hostility levels. It can also cause anger and fear towards others. Those who face sexism suffer negative consequences immediately. Sexism can be overcome by being a leader, not giving negative comments to others, giving everybody a chance no matter their gender. Sexism, Racism, and Discrimination will always be in the world from prejudice and judgmental people the only thing we can do is to stop doing it ourselves, and to accept people for who they are in our own lives, then maybe people will learn to do the same.
9. http://bullying.humanrights.gov.au/violence-harassment-and-bullying-and-homelessness
10. Responsibilities that carry along with having the right to speak freely are to have respect and knowledge before speaking about or to somebody. Responsibilities that carry along with having the right to practice religious beliefs are that there is no harm to others, and they do not feel unsafe, not trying to take away other religions by communism and make them think that your religion is the only ‘right’ way to believe. Having respect for other religions and not to start conflicts with neighbours who don’t have the same beliefs. Responsibilities that carry along with having the right to be treated fairly regardless of age, gender, religion, race, or values are not to take advantage of others who are kind, not being judgmental by breaking and not obeying this freedom. Responsibilities that carry along with having the right to associate with anyone are to be careful with the people you choose to associate with, making sure they won’t have a negative impact your life, and to feel comfortable with everyone that you choose to associate with. Responsibilities that carry along with having the right to protest peacefully at anytime are to be aware of all aspect and thoughts of others that you are protesting against, having knowledge and background about the cause that you are protesting against, and being aware if the protest is raciest or shows discrimination in any form.
11. Rights and responsibilities in a community affects how a leader performs their role in a community because the leader must meet everybody’s rights, they must have a mutual agreement or it may cause a protest or lead to negative thoughts about the leader or the community as a whole. The leader must be respectful to everybody opinions or the issue may end up being decided in court. The leader may end up being seen as a negative to the community if thoughts and ideas of others aren’t taken into consideration, and those who have put in idea’s aren’t heard.
It is important that a leader can defect the right of themselves so they aren’t victimized. Many leaders must be careful about what they say and the decisions they make so they don’t gain a bad reputation from others in the community where they live and communities that they make decisions for. It is also important for the leader to defend the rights of others so that members of the community feel safe and respected by their leaders. The leader won’t worry about getting ‘attacked’ by community members if they respect their rights. The most important is that if legal issues come into the community then the leader can defend the members, and if the leader respects members of the community, they will also defend the leader if needed on his behalf.

Key Question 18.

1. If students are fighting, talk them down so the fight doesn’t escalate.
Workers are not agreeing, feeling work is not fair between them, Another co-worker could listen to each story, and make work equivalent.
Children are arguing over toys, let them pick the one’s they want most and if they want the same one’s, stay around so that they’ll wait for their turn, until the other child gets bored of that toy.

2. A physical fight after the fight has begun.
A fight between a law enforcer and a friend, consequences may be worse for stepping in.
The situation disclosures serious criminal offences or safety risks.

3.I think i would make a good peer mediator depending on the situation, i do this while living in the lodge. Helping others resolve conflicts so there’s no tension in the lodge.

4. Verifying stories, Discussing Stories, and Signing a Contract added in Lesson 17.
These steps are important and necessary in mediation to come to an efficient solution, and signing a contract in important so that the solution made is followed, and there isn’t another argument about the same situation later in time.

Key Question 17.

1. 31, this can help me be a good leader, because i am assertive without being too aggressive unless it comes to certain situations.
2. Army general – ADVOCATE
Teacher- HELPER
Research Team Chief- THINKER
Hockey Team Captain- MOTIVATOR

3. i chose the advocate to be an army general because they are very confident in decisions they make and are able to handle big responsibilities without having to control everything.  I chose the helper to be a teacher because that`s what teachers are meant to be, helpers to younger generations that are our future. I chose the thinker to be a research team chief because they see other people who don`t need direction and can come up with ideas on their own.  i chose the motivator to be a hockey team captain because they are competitive, focused on efficiency and have goals, they end to rise to the top of any group they are in, which shows they work hard to get where they want to be, and will continue to work hard to stay where they are.
3. I would consider myself to be the partner. I am a very doubtful person, and see the negative over the positives. I seem to second guess myself quite a bit, and try to make things go right so that they won`t go wrong.
4. I would want a helper to be my supervisor, but not wanting them to get into my personal life where they don`t belong. If they would like to help out, and encourage me to be a better worker, then i would do so. Being happy and getting advice from a supervisor may be the right thing, but then again I’ve never had a ‘helper’ supervisor so it may come off as being too much .

Key Question 15.

1. -friendly distance, nodding, facing speaker, tilted towards speaker, replying to speaker
2.-Facing listeners, comfortable volume, friendly distance, appropriate gestures, confident

3.I would consider myself a good listener under certain circumstances, there’s times when i can listen meaningfully and take in what the speaker is saying. Other times, when I’m stressed, or have other things on my mind i don’t hear a word the speaker says. It depends on the time, place, surroundings, and how i feel.

Key Question 14.

1. Relaxing and calming down- breathing deep, power napping, listening to music, talking to friends.
Talking myself down- Questioning the following: will this matter in 2,5,10 years from now? was this done to me on purpose? do i allow myself to be calm, or react instantly which may lead to consequences, if so are the consequences worth what I’m mad about?
These are anger busters that i have found myself using lately, to make better decisions rather than reacting instantly.
b) Writing a letter to whom you are mad at, why your mad, and burn it if not sent to release anger from yourself.
2. I have many triggers, the main thing that causes my anger is repetition, when people continue to repeat themselves over and over again. Not listening to what i have to say is another trigger, when someone asks my opinion and doesn’t listen, they don’t listen to my point of view, and don’t make an effort to hear my side of a story. Bringing up my past experiences in life is a trigger that i won’t let anybody get to, if they do i get angry. Someone who makes comments about issues and situations that have nothing to do with them triggers me, when they make ridiculous comments that don’t need to be made.
3. If i were to get angry I react instantly, it’s what I’ve done my entire life. But, if i had to carry out the four steps, i would think about how the other person felt and understand my personal feelings. First, i would ask myself what triggered me, and why i feel the way i do. Secondly, i would ask them why they did the actions that they chose to do, and why. Thirdly, I would think about how this situation would affect me and what decision i should make. Lastly, i would make a final decision and hope it’s for the best.

4. If i had to show these steps to a friend, i would make it simple and let them know it may take a long time to process and get used to doing. IDENTIFY THE TRIGGER- realize why you feel the way you do, what the other person did, how you feel at the moment. ANALYZE FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS- do not attempt to do this while in an unstable mind, either aggressive or negative. Once you’ve calmed down ask yourself why the person did what they did, if they had a reason. knowing what the other person is feeling has endless wonders, so you should ask them. SELF-REASONING – ask yourself if it’s worth it, ask about future consequences, and remember to respect yourself and others with the decisions you make.ACTION- after deciding whether it’s worth it or not, make a decision. Don’t back down unless you know it’ll be worth it, because we control our own actions and life, don’t settle for less than you deserve.

Key Question 13.

1.  A person’s ability to be happy is lowered. 
     School and work both suffer.
     Social skills and interactions suffer
     Relationships suffer
     Increased stress
2. Symptoms that i often feel when i get angry are dilated pupils, breathing fast and shallow, rising blood pressure, chest pains, heart pumping faster, sweating, muscles tense, and palpitations. The most frequent symptoms when i get angry are fast and shallow breathing, chest pain and shaking body from tense muscles.
3. Five visible signs of anger to another person are sweating, dilated pupils, fast and shallow breathing, tensed muscles, and dry mouth. 
Five non-visible signs of anger to another person are blood pressure rising, chest pains, palpitations, liver releasing glucose, and  slower digestion.
4. Child and youth worker behaviour modification techniques, deescalation 

Key Question 12.

1.a) People who want to attend anger management groups/classes could go to Ganohakwasra Family Assault Support Services, along with anger management classes around the community.
b)Yes, Ganohakwasra offers many types of counselling for community members.
c) 1781 Chieftswood Rd., Oshweken, ON, NOA 1MO 519-445-4324 no costs.
This service offers many programs for youth, women, families, adults, anybody who needs help, they are willing to try and help for any causes.
2.Anger can be expressed by being aggressive, having a passive aggressive attitude, suppression, or by being assertive.
Aggressive – Reacting instantly, not thinking about consequences which can lead to hurting someone physically, emotionally or psychologically.  Ex. A boyfriend cheats on his girlfriend, the girlfriend re-acts instantly calling him names, hitting and attacking him for his past actions.
Passive Aggression- coping mechanism, using comments and rude remarks used aggressively or spiteful in intent. Holding anger in, until it explodes. Hiding anger, but manipulating the other person, giving them hints that you are mad.
Ex. A husband and wife get in a fight, the next morning the wife burns his breakfast, and leaves for work without a goodbye.
Suppression- Delaying situations and dealing with them at a later time, not reacting instantly. Ex. A boyfriend has been caught by his girlfriend talking and flirting with other girls, the girlfriend usually lashes out and leaves, but she wanted to give it time to see if he’d be honest and say something. A few days went by and he didn’t say anything, the girlfriend brought it up a few days later when she was in a comfortable place, and would be able to handle the conversation that would take place from this decision that her boyfriend had made.
Assertive- expressed directly immediately, in a non-threatening or aggressive way. Recognizing needs and wants without hurting others, making positive choices.
Ex. A girlfriend asks how she looks in an outfit she had chosen to wear for dinner.  The boyfriend replies you look good, but you could do better. Being honest but not putting the other person down brutally. Being interested in each other’s opinions and listening to what each other have to say, respecting each other’s point of views.

3. A recent situation involving anger that i was a part of is my boyfriend talking and cheating with another girl, while we have a relationship. I was assertive in this situation, not knowing exactly what would happen after the messages i read, not reacting the way i normally would. We stayed together and talked things out, realizing that if he wants to cheat, he should just leave and not come back. I think i picked my decision a bit too soon, but am willing to see where it leads to. I think this was the healthiest way to overcome this negative situation in my life, because this guy means a lot to me, I’ve made my mistakes, but he’s made more. We both talked, and listened to each other showing our true feelings, respecting each other, and our wishes. I’d like to see this be a good change, and maybe he’ll realize how close he was to loosing me, never happening again.

4.A person who has a passive aggressive personality may have difficulties entering and maintaining healthy relationships because they don’t communicate, they aren’t honest about what’s on their mind, they don’t confront the other person about situations. A passive person also has a harder time maintaining healthy relationships because they don’t talk about what’s bothering them, waiting until they explode and actions are made. Carrying past problems with them because they haven’t been dealt with in the past.

Key Question 11.

1. A boyfriend getting caught cheating while trying to keep it a secret from his girlfriend. the boyfriend gets a message from another girl, while his girlfriend has his phone..she reads it and this is what  instigated the conflict.
2. The boyfriend denied his acts, didn’t take responsibility, denied it.. until she read further and realized that he had been messing around for awhile before she found out.
3. Identifying and recognizing feeling and emotions of both parties was potentially skipped, as her first reaction she was ready to pack her stuff and leave forever, never turning back from the pain that this incident had caused her, but she got upset more than mad she didn’t look at him, but something held her back in her emotions and to this day.. she wonders if it was the right choice to stay. Having doubts and worrying about what he was doing while ‘at school’. She chose an option that not many people would choose, but she’s hoping it’s worth it..

2.  Boyfriend and girlfriend haven’t been getting alone quite as good as they wished, the boyfriend got ‘bored’ while he was at school, deciding to cheat on her. Not realizing the effects it would have on his girlfriend when she found out. They both have hurt each other in the past, but why again..why did the girlfriend deserve it? she didn’t.

The girlfriend being upset after reading the messages, crying with tears rolling down her face to see how her boyfriend had talked to another girl. The boyfriend went silent and didn’t know what to do, so he  held her tight and feel her pain.

The girlfriend was risking to take another chance that could end up good or horrible. Giving her boyfriend a third chance, is something that people don’t do often but she thinks that it might be worth it, and she’s now hoping for the best. She should have left him on the spot, to not have to hurt again, to never have to worry, to find another guy who may have treated her better than this guy. But she’ll never know, because she’s giving him another chance, and  is worried that it won’t end up like she hopes..but she’s giving it a try.

3. Jason didn’t process any of the steps, or else he wouldn’t have reacted immediately the  way he did. Jason could identify anger, and madness from his actions. Jason omitted every step. He reacted before understanding what had happened, he didn’t identify and recognize the feelings of others, and may have not pushed the person who pushed him first. Jason reacted without thoughts, and didn’t choose the best choice for his reactions.

4. Jason should have turned around and asked the person behind him why they pushed him,  finding out if it was on purpose or not. If the other person said ‘sorry’, then Jason would have no reason to push them back, looking at his surroundings and realizing that there were many people, so it may have not been the person that pushed him that he pushed. Jason and the person who pushed him should have had a civil conversation and the situation would not have ended the way it did.

Key Question 10

1. The group that wants to use the gym for basketball could use the gym for half the time, while the group that wants to play ball hockey occupies themselves for awhile, then they could switch and let the ball hockey players use the gym when basketball is done.

2. The group could all work together, some research about the experiment that other want to do, some write an essay- combining all ideas together, and the rest can build a model for the experiment to take place.  Working all together, while doing the same topic will also get them a higher mark.

3. Instead of ordering one thing, get a little of what everybody wants. Get your brother the chicken wings he wants, your sister a vegetarian dish, and yourself some pizza, or else order from a different place.

4. A husband and wife are arguing, over the dishes. He says that he does them all the time, meanwhile the wife already had done them that day. To make it a win-win situation, the husband could wash while the wife puts them away so that chores are equally split up.